So as my previous blog post stated, my dating life isn’t going all that well, one could even describe it as a joke. Well I would describe it as a joke. Only I would encounter the ridiculous situations I do.
While my friends go out meeting lovely and charming men, making them their boyfriends, I am in limbo – on the ‘first date curse’ where everyone I meet is an absolute weirdo. I’m also on the ‘tinder buzz’ and have had an alarming amount of dick pics sent to me in the past week…not sure whether I should be flattered or concerned.
The other week a work friend came back to the office exclaiming that she had made a sale and gotten me a date at the same time – everyone immediately celebrated which of course begged me to question, ‘oh god am I that lonely loser?!’ Brushing it off, my work friend raved and rabbited on about this guy she had just met – he was 27, smart, funny and a business owner. Ok this sounded impressive. She told me that I didn’t really have a say in the matter as she had already handed over my number and he was going to contact me sometime in the next day or two to set up a date. OH GOD I thought, I am horrible on first dates. Around my friends and family I’m vivacious and extroverted, but in front of a potential lovvveerrr for a first date? They’re met with an awkward, stumbling, stuttering version of myself. Saaa cute.
So said suitor contacted me and we decided to go to dinner. He had great chat over text so I thought why not. I met him at the restaurant and found him immediately, he had a big dorky grin on his face which immediately made me feel at ease. We actually had good chat and had a lot in common. Though there were things that immediately turned me off:
1 – He complained about the food taking so long – leave the poor waitress alone she looked horrified!
2 – He said that he hardly drunk or went out (I didn’t admit to him that I’m a borderline alcoholic who goes out and gets white girl wasted every weekend)
3 – He reminded me of my brother. Yes my brother which isn’t the comparison you want on a first date.
But because he was so nice and sent me a lovely follow up text (boys take note – always send the follow up text saying how much fun you had and complimenting her) I couldn’t say no to a second date. Well I could have but I felt too bad! But I suggested that we do something a bit more adventurous and less formal than a sit down dinner…rock climbing.
He was up for it so we went along and got harnessed up. It was almost immediate that I had regretted going on the second date;
1 – He commented not once, not twice, but four times about how he was excited to belay me while I was climbing and stare up at my bum. What kind of reaction was I meant to have to that??
2 – When he began to sweat, the smell protruding from him was reminiscent of salt n vinegar chips – definitely not my favourite flavour.
3 – He was far too competitive. I’m naturally a very competitive person, love to win, hate to lose, but he took it to a whole other level when he won the harmless race we had and screamed YOU LOSE in my face
4 – The lady at the counter walked up to me and asked if I had dropped my undies (there was a pair on the floor next to the wall we had just been at) I jokingly said no my undies are in my bag to which he looked at me like I was a complete psychopath. He clearly didn’t understand my brilliant humour 😉
5 – When we got back to my flat he awkwardly invited himself in – saying that he had an hour to spare (spare for what? just go home?!) and asked if he could come inside for a cup of tea (on my shelf at my flat I have a variety of things – Japanese mayonnaise, rice crackers and baked beans – but no tea) So I had to make a quick excuse as to why he couldn’t and leave it as that.
Don’t get me wrong – he was a lovely guy and has a lot of things going for him but sometimes you just can’t fake a ‘spark’, it’s either there or it isn’t. So unfortunately no third date for Mr. Salt n Vinegar.